April is c-section awareness month and during the month of April, Thrive Postpartum and Couples Therapy will be featuring Mamas who have experienced a c-section birth(s). One amazing thing that has been learned through the interviewing process is how different each circumstance is that led to a c-section birth. No matter how your baby was brought into this world, your experience is valid and important. We would like to feature Mamas who have experienced a c-section as many times these experiences are looked over. Discussing c-section experiences can still feel taboo and uncomfortable. But we are hoping to break down barriers and allow for a safe space for these important stories to be told. 

This is Nicole’s story.

1. Please share the circumstances that led to your c-section birth(s).

I was induced with my first pregnancy at 39 weeks. My body was receptive to the Pitocin, and I almost immediately started dilating. The contractions became intense but as soon as I got an epidural, I was able to relax. Once I was fully dilated I pushed for almost 4 hours straight. My daughter got stuck in the birth canal and I ended up needing an emergency c-section. So many people began to file into my hospital room to get me ready for surgery. My c-section went smooth and everything was fine with baby. My 2 subsequent children were then planned c-sections due to my initial c-section.

2. What surprised you the most about having a c-section?

Honestly, everything. I was not prepared for how I would feel after such a major surgery. I could not even bend over to get myself dressed after my first shower; my husband had to help me. I am a very independent person and I was not expecting to have to rely on others so much. However I was mentally prepared for my other 2 c-sections and it is so much easier to have a planned c-section vs an emergency c-section. I was in a different mindset and I felt that those recoveries were so much easier.

3. What kind of support do you feel you received (from friends, family, healthcare team) after your c-section(s)?

My husband was my #1 support. He was literally there for anything I could ever need. My parents were also very helpful for my second and third c-sections. In the fact they would watch the toddlers for me so I could focus on the newborn. Having someone there to help is key in making sure your recovery goes smooth. My OBGYN was wonderful as well and was always there to answer any questions I would ever have.

4. What’s your #1 piece of advice/encouragement for a new c-section mom?

YOU ARE STRONG! YOU ARE WORTHY! I feel like “all natural” births are all the rage lately and while I can see how that could be empowering, it discounts those who simply can not have that experience. Having a c-section (whether planned or not) does not discount you as a mother. Having a c-section is a major surgery, and it takes strong women to get through them like we do. Do not let anyone EVER discount you just because you had a surgery. It takes a lot to recover from that. Also - always ask for help, or accept help, when offered. You need to rest and take care of yourself. You’ll have plenty of time to be Superwoman later once you are fully healed.

April is c-section awareness month and during the month of April, Thrive Postpartum and Couples Therapy will be featuring Mamas who have experienced a c-section birth(s). One amazing thing that has been learned through the interviewing process is how different each circumstance is that led to a c-section birth. No matter how your baby was brought into this world, your experience is valid and important. We would like to feature Mamas who have experienced a c-section as many times these experiences are looked over. Discussing c-section experiences can still feel taboo and uncomfortable. But we are hoping to break down barriers and allow for a safe space for these important stories to be told. 

This is Karlie’s story.

1. Please share the circumstances that led to your c-section birth(s). 

My c-sections both happened due to stress on the baby's heart rate after I was given Pitocin. Both were failed inductions. Each time after the epidurals I stopped progressing and more Pitocin was given as a response. Every time the Pitocin was increased to very high levels, the baby's heart rate would drop.

2. What surprised you the most about having a c-section?

What surprised me is that both were so drastically different in the healing process. My first I hardly had any pain at all. Healing was easy and I thought people had over exaggerated  about the pain. My second rocked my world. It was the worst pain I've ever experienced. I could hardly walk and I couldn't get up from a laying down position in bed. One time I remember crying hysterically because I truly didn't know how I would get up from the bed without feeling like my scar was going to open.

3.What kind of support do you feel you received (from friends, family, healthcare team) after your c-section(s)?

I feel that the support of my husband was an absolute blessing. He was hands down the best support I could ever ask for. Without that support I don't know how I would have made it. My friends were supportive as well, but obviously it's not the same as with the person living with you. Healthcare was not the best. One of my doctors was great and the other who discharged me was awful. He told me he wasn't going to give me enough pain meds for more than a week and that I would have to come back into the hospital to get more. Let me clarify that I actually refused pain meds in the hospital because I didn't want to be dependent on them. It wasn't until a nurse explained to me that I didn't need to be a hero by being in pain and to get ahead of it before it's unbearable. It was then that I took more than ibuprofen. What shocked me was that my doctor had expected me to get in a car, drive over all the bumps in the road, to walk through a hospital while I was barely able to stand after my c-section. My husband watched the kids, carried anything and everything, held me up, helped me in and out of chairs/beds/cars, drove me everywhere, and did all the housework and cooking. He is incredible, and something I know I shouldn't take for granted.

4.What’s your #1 piece of advice/encouragement for a new c-section mom?

Advice I have to others is to be prepared for the emotional aspect of having a c-section. There's this sense of loss I had/have. I most likely will never get to experience what society says is "normal", "natural", "God given". This wasn't something I wanted. I think we need to accept that our labors and births are all unique. They give us the greatest blessings we can imagine. There's also a lot of emotions in the actual surgery room. Anxiety, fear, excitement, literally every feeling and emotion. Don't be afraid to ask for help and be vocal in the surgery room. The medicine used can cause a lot of different reactions like shaking and shortness of breath. This is normal and your medical team can help! Post-partum PTSD is real. Seeking help is ok. Talking through your c section is valid.

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